the proposal

Wednesday was rough. You see, The Kidling started pre-school this week. Though she loves it, she is tired. Fatigued. Exhausted. Plum worn out. And, though you know The Kidling well, dear readers, you might not know that when she is tired she turns into a monster. After a particularly difficult evening, we had this conversation at bedtime:

The Mama: (tucking Alice in) Good night, Sweetie. Happy dreaming.

Alice: Will you sleep with me?

The Mama: No, Baby. I’m not going to bed yet.

Alice: Why do you always sleep with Dad and not with me?

The Mama: Well, we are married. That’s how it works.

Alice: Why?

The Mama: People who are married usually sleep in the same bed.

Alice: Can I be married with you?

The Mama: You have to be a grown-up.

Alice: Can I be married with you when I’m grown up?

The Mama: No—


The Mama: Well, Sweetie—


The Mama: Alice—

Alice: BWAAAAHHHH! Why can’t I be married with you?

The Mama: We can talk about it when you grow up.


The Mama: Well, Moms aren’t allowed to marry their kids.

Alice: BWAAAAAAAHHHHHHH! Why won’t you marry me?!

The Mama: It’s just against the rules, Sweetheart.

Alice: BWAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH! Why can’t kids marry their moms?

The Mama: Because we are already a family, Alice. When you get married, the idea is to make your family bigger. Since we are already a family, we don’t need to get married.

Alice: BWAAAAAAAAAHHHHHH! But I want to be married with you!

The Mama: I know, Sweetie, but those are just the rules.

Alice: But I want to live here!

The Mama: If you want to live here, then we can talk about that when you are bigger.

Alice: No! I want to live here!

The Mama: Okay.

Alice: I don’t want to get married.

The Mama: That’s up to you. You don’t have to get married if you don’t want to.

Alice: (pauses to think) But I still want the cake.

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24 thoughts on “the proposal

  1. The Mama,
    Does Alice know kids don’t leave the family nest until they are 39 these days? She has nothing to worry about… She can eat her cake and have her mother bake it at the same time.
    Le Clown

    • Agreed. And it is totally the point of a wedding. Seriously, who could care about the ceremony?

      Blah blah. I won’t be a jerk. Blah blah. I’ll love you and whatever… Now it’s time for cake!

  2. That’s a smart kid. Why bother with the wedding at all? Just get a wedding cake and eat the whole thing all by yourself! Why hasn’t anyone else thought of this?

    • Because every four-year-old only child needs to be told about yet another instance in which she will be the center of attention and have gifts bestowed upon her… only this time, she gets to pick them!

      What? What’s that, Alice? You say you’ve changed your mind about getting married… Sigh… We’ll talk about it when you grown up.

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